Monday, February 14, 2011

Ranting about beauty and irony.

I find it ironic that so many people who bitch about how the standards of beauty set by media, celebrities, fashion industry, etc put so much pressure on them to look a certain way. Griping about how unfair it is and how it needs to change. Complaining endlessly that not everyone is going to be super thin and that shouldn't be the standard. That small breasts are just as fine as large ones. Having a lean slender body is just as fine as having a curvaceous body and being chubby is fine too as long as one is happy and healthy. That having a purple mohawk and 11 piercings doesn't make someone weird. That crooked teeth, a mole on one's cheek or a large nose doesn't mean someone isn't pretty. That a certain hairstyle or style of dress shouldn't dictate anything. I could go on endlessly with examples but I'll stop now and get moving with my point.

Then so many of those same people sit there watching award shows making fun of celebs for putting on a few pounds, doing their hair a certain way, choosing that make-up or wearing something they consider ugly. It's ironic that someone who gets so outraged over people judging them because they're fat, too skinny, have crooked teeth, etc etc etc can complain about standards of beauty being too high yet sit there picking apart someone on TV for how they look. Funny how you want a standard to change yet still want to hold the rest of the world to that higher standard that you find so personally unfair.

You think because their celebrities, it makes it ok to pick them apart? Why, because they don't hear what you're saying? Because you think they don't feel the same pressure you feel? Because it makes you feel better to be able to point out flaws in someone you may envy for some reason? It doesn't matter why you're doing it. You can't demand that the world not judge you for how you look and then turn around and judge the world for how it looks.

I'm happy with myself. I've overheard random strangers making snide comments about how I'm dressed, my hair, my make-up, my nose, my boobs and plenty of other things. I'm happy with how I look and I don't hold myself to any kind of ridiculous standard set by someone else. I don't care what other people think about me because looking at myself every day and being comfortable and happy in who I am and how I look is the important thing to me.

Like I keep saying in regards to this topic, be the change you want to fucking see. Don't be a hypocrite and complain about how unfair something is then turn around and do exactly what you claim to rally against.
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T said...

Yes. True. It is EXACTLY what we loathe in others that we loathe in ourselves. The difference is... the awareness that we don't like this or that about ourselves and try to change it or accept it instead of hating it in other people.

Be the change, indeed.

Maryam said...

Very true. I love every part of the post. Seriously, we guys need to stop criticizing others and should look at ourselves first.

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The Blue Periwinkle said...

I agree.
Like totally.