Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Intolerance & me.

I tweeted this a couple weeks ago, "Geez, I'm allowed to be weirded out by something. It doesn't make me intolerant. Not everyone is going to like the same stuff. Get over it."

I was talking to someone and they mentioned something they were into. They asked what my opinion on it was. I said it creeped me out, because it does. I said I felt it was weird, because I do. I said it made me uncomfortable, because it does. I explained more specifically why I had those feelings because the person I was talking wanted to know. So, I explained simply why it didn't float my boat.

Then I got called intolerant.

Uh, no.

"Intolerance: Not tolerant of others' views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.

Intolerant: Unwillingness or refusal to accept people who are different from you, or views, beliefs, or lifestyles that differ from your own."

I'm allowed to have a negative opinion on something without it being intolerance. I don't care that the person I was talking to is into it. I'm not hating on them doing it. I didn't bash it. I didn't bash them for liking it. The only "negative" thing I even said was that I'm not comfortable with it and it's creepy to me.

Sorry, that doesn't make me intolerant. A lot of people tend to get defensive when they talk about something they like and then someone doesn't share their appreciation of it. There's no need to be defensive about it when you're not being attacked, judged or ridiculed for it, though.

Someone having a differing opinion from you doesn't make them intolerant.


sarahbear said...

Yes. Spot on.

So many people get really defensive when you have a different opinion than them about something. Not sure if it was about anything sexual, but it's even worse when it involves sexual fetishes and such. I've seen people lose their shit and jump all over people about 'sex negativity' in regards to what they were physically not attracted to.

Just remember opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one and all of them stink.

Joker_SATX said...

I think (after all was said and done) that this person who asked you, should not have asked you. Or should have prefaced it with, "Here is my opinion, if yours doesn't match exactly, please don't answer."

I am amazed at some people at times. You just keep making it do what it do....

BTExpress said...

Why do some people expect everyone to "yes" them to death? I know many people that do things that I wouldn't do and that I find distasteful or just plain wrong. But, unless it's harmful to others, then it's none of my business and I almost never give my opinion unless asked.

Ramble said...

It's funny how in my life I have come across people who call others intolerant...and turn out to be the MOST intolerant themselves!

Freya_Sex_Goddess said...

I saw that tweet. I think I retweeted it. If I didn't, I meant to. Innyhoo, yeah. I think we feel like "if you don't like what I like then what are saying about me? If you think that what I like is weird, then you're calling me weird." And that's not always true. I mean, I find myself getting defensive sometimes, but I am able to keep it in check once I tell myself "Cool it. No one is attacking you." But very few people are able to do that. But hey, Ash, do you bud. They'll get over their own intolerance eventually.

nitebyrd said...

Here! Here! You said it, girl. Just because your opinion may differ from someone else's doesn't mean you're intolerant. Jeez, we all have our limit but it doesn't mean we're judging.

(btw, I have a little button up at my place for your T4T drive.)

PandaDementia said...

True. Dat. Not liking what you're into or not understanding why you're into it =/= intolerance or sex negativity. Hating on you because you're into that = intolerance. There is a huge difference and it's a difference that not enough people get.
People get way too bent out of shape and defensive about people disagreeing with them, for whatever reason, and they need to stop. So... make them stop, will ya? ;-P