Tuesday, July 20, 2010

My Best Friend....

I met my best friend over 8 years ago. I bonded with him over music, movies and hockey. We didn't share the love for the same team but we shared a love for the sport and respectfully bashed the shit out of each others' favored team. And still wanted to hang out again after that. Unlike a lot of guy friends I've had, he's never wanted to date me, fuck me, kiss me or any other shit like that. I've never wanted him in any such way. We've always had this strange kind of bond, almost like brother and sister in a way. And not the type of "they're like brother and sister but secretly one wants to bang the other or is in love with the other" kind of thing. Even when drunk as all fuck, we've never even so much as flirted one tiny bit. He now lives almost 2,000 miles away from Dallas and has for years. I've done my share of moving around between Texas and California, as anyone who has read here long enough knows. We still talk regularly, mostly by text message.

So to my best friend, I want to say a few things.

Thank you for always listening to me when I need someone to listen.

Thank you for never telling me what would be easier to hear and always telling me exactly what I need to hear. Even when it's upsetting, hurtful or anger inducing.

Thank you for always some how knowing when things aren't okay.

Thank you for being able to talk so openly and honestly about everything.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings without holding back.

Thank you for understanding my odd, sometimes warped, sense of humor.... because your sense of humor is so similar.

Thank you for all the advice you've given me that I rarely listened to but should have.

Thank you for actually taking the advice I give you more often than not.

Thank you for always being able to talk me down when I'm ready to go on a rage because I'm that pissed off.

Thank you for your ridiculous ability to always make me laugh. (I blame that on having a similar sense of humor and just using what would work for you so really, not so miraculous but I appreciate it never the less.)

And thank you for for staying up until 4:30 AM talking to me (listening to me whine and talk a bunch of shit out) when you have to be at work by 9 AM.

Thank you for not going to bed when I told you to because you knew I needed to talk and wanted to be there for me.

Thank you for always being there for me when I need you to be.

It always throws people off when they find out my best friend is a guy. Which it shouldn't because most of my friends are guys, anyway. I get along better with guys but that's a different rant for a different day. People still have that perception that a guy and a girl cannot possibly be friends without one or both wanting to fuck or be more than friends. Seriously, it can be done and I really don't see how that's such a hard notion for so many people to still grasp onto. I remember the first time I told him that I loved him for being such a good person and a great friend. He made me swear up and down I wasn't in love with him and that I didn't want to be with him because he didn't feel that way and didn't find it likely he ever would. I swore up and down I hadn't meant it that way and I was telling the truth. I love him to death but I wouldn't ever be in a relationship with him. I wouldn't leave The Boyfriend for him. And vice versa. In truth, I think if we ever dated we would probably drive each other fucking crazy and we'd end up wanting to kill one another. Very soon. We're too much alike and knowing myself the way I do, dating myself? Wouldn't bode well. Not at all. So, I'm glad I have a friend who understands me so well and is (even with the geographical differences) always there for me as much as he can be. And I do the same for him. We won't even get into how many nights I stayed up too late listening to him go on and on about a girl he was dating or in a relationship with. Or how many hours were spent making him feel better after his father lashed out at him and made my 6'4" friend feel a few wee inches high. ;)

Another plus side? The Boyfriend has no issues (jealousy or otherwise) with my friendship with him, either. Hooray. I can imagine it wouldn't go well if that were something that caused a problem between us. Luckily, I don't have to worry about that. I know a lot of people say when you're with someone and have been together for as long as we have, your significant other should be your best friend. I don't agree because I think it's good to have other people to talk to about things with. Mine just happens to be a guy instead of a girl and thankfully, The Boyfriend is secure enough and trusts me enough that he's not threatened by it. Which I love. :D

One last thing? I apologize for any rambling on and on I did in this post. Also, I apologize if I did a poor job of articulating any points or thoughts. Or if I just forgot to make a point I wanted to, lol. I might have to come back and do some editing (maybe, we'll see, heh) when I'm less mentally and emotionally drained. I just really wanted to write right now and I'm not so good at ignoring my impulses. :)

Happy Tuesday!

Comments, anyone?


Gina Flores said...

Aww such a sweet post :D Everyone needs a friend like that!

Jormengrund said...

A true friend is there no matter what the weather. I have few friends, and don't make them easily. However, once you've made me a friend, I'll never back down. I've been told this quite a few times, and they always thank me for being willing to be there and support them through some ugly times.

I'm glad that you've got someone like this. Never underestimate the power of a true friendship. This is something that is wonderful, powerful, and you should feel truly grateful for.

Take care AR!

nitebyrd said...

Sounds like you've got two really good men in your life.

Having a friend like that, male or female, is a rare treasure. You're a lucky woman!