I do want to respond to the people who felt I over-reacted. I simply, straightforwardly asked the guy to call me by my name and not call me sweetie. I don't feel it's appropriate or professional for a manager to interview a potential employee and behave the way he did. It's not professional to leer at one's breasts and ask questions about what's on the shirt because you can't quite tell with the way I'm sitting. It's not professional to sniff me and tell me that I smell good as we sit down to begin the interview. It's not professional to tell me that my hair is pretty and shiny in the middle of you asking me if I'm married or have a boyfriend. It's also not appropriate or professional to even be asking me if I have a husband or boyfriend during an interview. It's not okay to ask me one work related question and then spend the rest of the "interview" trying to find out things about me under the pretense that you feel you need to "get to know the kind of person" you're potentially about to hire. If I'm in a relationship, have children, like a certain type of music or have pretty hair isn't relevant to if I'm going to be able to do the job well or not. Not that he would know anyone since he asked one job related question and didn't care much for discussing work. He explained uniforms, told me what my hours would be and was quite ready to hire me, assuming I would definitely take the job despite his ridiculously inappropriate behavior. Him calling me sweetie wasn't okay. Him getting mad because I asked him to use my name and not call me a pet name was ridiculous. I badly need a job but not enough that I'm willing to put up with that kind of bullshit to get and keep a job. I will not deal with that kind of crap and won't apologize for that either.
For those who made comments or questions about how he might have been testing me to see how I deal with assholes in case it was a job in a strip club or sex industry? It wasn't that. I have nothing against anyone who strips, works as a prostitute or any other kind of sex worker. That type of work is not for me. I couldn't do it. So no, the job wasn't for that. It's actually a rather family friendly place so he wasn't testing me to see how I deal with anything, he was just being an unprofessional, inappropriate asshole.
For those who commented that I was overreacting and was too dramatic? I said a sentence. It's not too much to ask that a potential boss who I've just met call me by my first name. I wasn't irrational. I was very direct and matter of fact about it. Overreacting would have been if I picked the file folder off the table and slapped him across the face with it and told him to stop staring at my tits and stop sniffing me. Overreacting would have been cussing and screaming at him. I did not overreact and I'm happy with how I handled it. I can respect that some of you are going to continue to disagree with that and that's fine if you that's what you want top continue to believe.
I know a lot of people deal with things like that. They grin or just shrug off remarks and actions like that. You shouldn't. No one should have to deal with a smug dude acting like he can say and do what he wants because they're in a higher position of power than you are. There are boundaries and lines and not all of them have to be crossed physically. You can cross lines and boundaries with words and with actions that don't put you in direct contact with another person. In a business, the management staff should act professionally. I don't care if it's food service, Sears, a furniture store, a bar, a bank, a dollar store or a super huge corporation. There are things that aren't appropriate to do and they should maintain a certain level of professionalism.
Moving on from that I have another thing to rant about. Coming to a blog and attacking other bloggers in the comments section or trash talking other bloggers in the comments section is immature and also not appropriate. It's petty and rude. Especially if the post has NOTHING to do with that blogger or set of bloggers. You have issues with someone? Fine, I don't care. Go take it up with them in private but don't do it on my blog when I'm not even talking about them. I don't get the need to publicly go after people you dislike. Ignore them if they bother you that badly. If you really have issues and you want them to be heard, grow a pair and go tell them on their blog or in an e-mail. Or, start your own fucking blog and bitch away.
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