I've seen this plenty of times. People bring their young kids in and then let them run around the place. Which is annoying and isn't safe. A few months ago, when the Boyfriend and I went to watch the Stars game and eat, there was a lady and her husband sitting at the bar. They were eating and downing beers. Their daughter who looked to be 3 or 4? She was running all over the bar area, trying to chatter at random customers. Then when she would go back to mom and dad, they would toss her a large bouncy ball. Seriously. One of them would toss the ball, the little girl would chase it, play with it for a while and then take it back. They would either toss it again or hold on to it. If they held on to it, she would jump around to get their attention. They pretty much ignored her and kept drinking more beer and talking. She would run around, dancing goofy little dances or hopping up on bar stools. At times, she would try to talk to random people. At one point, she went out the door to the patio dining area and her parents didn't even notice. One of the waitresses led her back inside then her parents looked perplexed for a moment before ordering more drinks. They tossed the ball for her to chase a bit more frequently after that but ultimately, they weren't paying much attention to her.
I don't get that. She could have wandered off outside on the patio. Someone could have kidnapped her. She could have easily gone through the patio gate and wandered out into the parking lot and gotten hit by a car. It's right by the freeway, she could have wandered out there. It's in a huge shopping center. There is plenty of stuff she could have wandered off to and gotten hurt or worse.
I can get, as parents, you don't get a lot of time to go out to eat and drink beer on a Sunday afternoon. I can get that you might not have anyone to leave your kid with or you might not have been able to find anyone for the day. Maybe they did have someone but that fell through so now they have their kiddo with them while they have lunch and drinks. I don't have a problem with that. I do think it's wrong to ignore your child that way though. It's also irresponsible to not pay attention to what your kid is doing, where they're going and who they're wandering up and talking to. The ball thing irked me too. They literally would take it and toss it, not really watching where it was going and not even paying attention to if she was going to go get it or not. It was like playing fetch with a dog except most dog owners are more involved in their game of fetch with their pets.
Another thing that irked me was that they both drank a shitload of beer. I don't know if they were drunk or not. They might have high alcohol tolerances. I don't care if you're drunk or just tipsy, don't fucking drive after you've been drinking. Especially when you're going to have your child in the car with you. I CANNOT STAND people who drink and drive. It fucking pisses me off. You want to drink yourself stupid, fine, go ahead. I do it from time to time myself. Getting behind the wheel and driving after you've been drinking is stupid, irresponsible and reckless. You put yourself and other people at risk. Even if you're tipsy, it's still wrong and you're still impaired. I don't give a fuck how "good" you think you drive after you've been drinking. I don't care that you're "only tipsy" and can "drive just fine" or that you're "only going a few miles" so it's okay. You probably think you sing like a rock star or can dance better than a professional too. That doesn't mean it's true and it's not okay. And yes, it's something that is very personal to me and don't EVEN try to argue or reason with me about it because I believe to my core that it's something you do NOT do. I was in an accident caused by a drunk driver who was "only driving a few miles down the road" too. I was 5 when it happened. I'll be 25 this June. Almost 20 years later, I STILL have issues and things physically wrong with me from the damage that was done to me the night that asshole thought he was okay to drive and rear ended my mom's car. I have scars I'll look at for the rest of my life and I have medical issues I'll deal with for the rest of my life because some dumb fuck thought he was "fine" to drive "a few miles down the road" after he had been drinking. I got off track though....
I just don't understand why people go out with their kids and then allow them to run all over the place and not pay attention to them. This isn't the first, second, third or twentieth time I've seen it before. I have friends with kids. Those same kids come out to dinner with us sometimes, too. My friends never let their kids wander off or run around like they're at home. They enjoy their adult time and they pay attention to their kids as well without letting them run all over the place, screaming and yelling, etc. It can be done.
I know it happens in other establishments too. Grocery stores, the mall, etc. It seems like in sports bars, it's worse. It's like they're in a sort of contained environment and they know their kids can't go far so they let them run around while they eat, drink and socialize. Plus, unlike other restaurants, sports bars are loud and noisy so no big deal if their kids are loud, noisy and running around. And trust me, as a waitress, you can be fucked if you say something about it. Chances are, you're going to piss the parents off if you can find a way to tell them their kids have no business running around in there. It's not fucking Chuck-E-Cheese but say something about it and you're going to get bitched at, possibly have them want to bitch at your boss and definitely not getting a tip. So, as long as they're not hurting anyone, themselves or damaging property, you deal with the annoyance. Though, guaranteed in most cases if the kid gets hurt, the parents are gonna act like the blame should fall on someone else. Of course, it couldn't be their own fault for not making their kids behave.
I just really don't understand why you would take a child into a place like that and then not pay attention to what they're doing, let them run around, etc. Though, I don't understand why you would take your child anywhere and not pay attention to what they're doing but that's not the point I'm on right now, lol. So, I'm curious, do any of you ever take your young children into places like that? Are you more willing to let them run around or pay less attention to what they're doing/how they're acting because of the environment they're in?