Friday, May 21, 2010

Failure..

"Without disappointment, you can't appreciate victory."

That is a quote from one of my favorite movies, Gone In 60 Seconds.

It's one of my favorite quotes in general. I love it.

Something I used to have a hard time with was not succeeding at things. I'm a very determined, ambitious individual. I succeed at most things I set my mind to. I don't say that trying to be arrogant because I'm not arrogant, it's just true. So, when I occasionally failed at something, I got annoyed with myself. I'd talk down on myself and then push myself to do better. Even over trivial things. I used to have such a difficult time with failure. I held myself to ridiculous standards and was way too hard on myself. I wanted to be better. In every way. I never felt good enough, for anything or anyone.

I've since learned that I won't always succeed at everything I attempt and that's okay. It doesn't make me weak, it doesn't make me stupid, it doesn't make me anything more or less than what I already am.

I've also learned that the quote I started this post with is so true. I always liked it but I didn't always fully understand what it meant. I do now because it's so true. Facing disappointment in life makes those victories that much sweeter when they happen.


The only way I could truly fail at something is to never try at all. At least if I don't succeed, I usually learn something about myself in the process or I learn something new about something else. At least I tried rather than being too afraid or too lazy to attempt something. I never look at things as failures anymore. Life is just experience after experience. Some are better, some are worse but they all offer the chance to gain something new. Even if it's only a perspective, a lesson learned, a funny story or something else but any of that is better than nothing and I never view it as a failure.

Happy Friday!

Comments, please?

10 comments:

Hubman said...

I'm reminded of a quote attributed to Thomas Edison when he was trying to invent the lightbulb and went through hundreds of ideas that failed. He said something along the lines of "I haven't failed hundreds of times, I've learned the hundreds of ways that don't work!"

The power of positive thinking in action!

Resident A-Hole said...

"In this journey called life, there are no failures, just a growth of knowledge"
That is one of my favorite quotes, although I have no clue who said it. It goes along the same lines of your quote. Lessons learned are much more positive than "failures". I agree with Hubman, positive thinking will always make you a better person and improve your life dramatically.

Tragic™ said...

I'm always amazed at your strength and tenacity. I love that you push until you get'er done. I also love that you're not afraid to mess up and learn from it, and also admit it. Not a lot of people have those qualities, not enough in my book. You DO indeed rock Miss Amorous Chick! ~xo

Alexa said...

There are a great many peopel who go through life and never figure out how to do that. I am very fortunate in that my parents (my father, especially) taught me that I won't suceed at all things early in life, and that that was perfectly okay so long as I did the best I could.

Steel Horseman said...

I like the quote too, but it is not enough to inspire to me to want to fail.

Another Suburban Mom said...

Colin Powell once said “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.”

I am sure success will be coming to you. You are too smart and hardworking for it not to.

nitebyrd said...

“For all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are these,'It might have been'.”

You are a better person for going out and trying. You'll never know what might hate been in you do get out and give it a shot.

The attitude you show in this post makes me think you'll succeed because you're not afraid to fail and you take all experiences as learning ones.

nitebyrd said...

Ooops! Forgot to credit the quote -

John Greenleaf Whittier

Joanna Cake said...

Absolutely! Who wants to get to the end of their life and regret the things they didnt do or try?

Take the bull by the horns and make it happen x

Joker_SATX said...

I never see failure as failure but only as a learning experience.

I never see failure as failure but only as the negative feedback I need to move me in a positive direction.

I never see failure as failure but only as the opportunity to develop my sense of humor.