"Without disappointment, you can't appreciate victory."
That is a quote from one of my favorite movies, Gone In 60 Seconds.
It's one of my favorite quotes in general. I love it.
Something I used to have a hard time with was not succeeding at things. I'm a very determined, ambitious individual. I succeed at most things I set my mind to. I don't say that trying to be arrogant because I'm not arrogant, it's just true. So, when I occasionally failed at something, I got annoyed with myself. I'd talk down on myself and then push myself to do better. Even over trivial things. I used to have such a difficult time with failure. I held myself to ridiculous standards and was way too hard on myself. I wanted to be better. In every way. I never felt good enough, for anything or anyone.
I've since learned that I won't always succeed at everything I attempt and that's okay. It doesn't make me weak, it doesn't make me stupid, it doesn't make me anything more or less than what I already am.
I've also learned that the quote I started this post with is so true. I always liked it but I didn't always fully understand what it meant. I do now because it's so true. Facing disappointment in life makes those victories that much sweeter when they happen.
The only way I could truly fail at something is to never try at all. At least if I don't succeed, I usually learn something about myself in the process or I learn something new about something else. At least I tried rather than being too afraid or too lazy to attempt something. I never look at things as failures anymore. Life is just experience after experience. Some are better, some are worse but they all offer the chance to gain something new. Even if it's only a perspective, a lesson learned, a funny story or something else but any of that is better than nothing and I never view it as a failure.