Monday, March 22, 2010

Tolerance...



I saw this on Twitter. Someone posted it (and I'm not saying who because I'm not attacking the person for posting it. My issue is with the picture's message so it's irrelevant who the picture came from.) in their time line and given the link, I assume they picked it up off Tumblr.

I think that picture is ridiculous. Not because I'm a southern girl from Texas who finds stuff like that ridiculous but just because it's stupid. I get the point. It's essentially meant to point out that gays being able to marry (I support gay marriage, btw) won't ruin the sanctity of marriage any more than anyone else already has or will. "Gays will ruin the sanctity of marriage but these hillybilly clowns aren't ruining it by doing what they do and looking how they look? Scoff scoff scoff!"

The pictures are of people on their wedding days. Ideally, most of you wouldn't find the ways they're celebrating their big day particularly appealing. Who cares? It's not your day. If someone wants to do a keg stand at their wedding reception, who gives a shit? It's not any worse than someone downing a whole bottle of champagne or win and as long as they're happy and having fun, again, who gives a shit?

So they have Twinkies, Ding Dongs and other cheap snack cakes out for consumption. Not everyone can afford fancy or expensive stuff. Not everyone cares for that kind of stuff either. So what if they got 10 boxes of Twinkies and then put them out for the reception? There's nothing wrong with that if it's what they could afford or what they wanted.

So what if the bride and groom are getting married in camouflage stuff? Or red? Or plaid and jeans? If that's what they can afford, go for it. If that's what they want and what they're happy with, go for it.

There is no rule that says a wedding has to be white dress, classy tux, pretty colors, champagne, wine, pretty cake, blah blah blah. Not everyone can afford the cliche fairy tale movie and guess what? Not everyone wants that either. There is no rule that says how you have to get married, how you have to look doing it, what you have to serve, how to plan out your reception, etc.

I find it funny that people who are trying to preach tolerance and acceptance of one thing do it by bashing or poking fun of something else for whatever reason. Be it they think it's tacky, wrong, ridiculous, etc.
If you want to preach and rant on about tolerance and acceptance, go for it but don't do it by making a mockery out of something else. You're doing the exact thing you're trying to stand up for with crap like this.

23 comments:

Kate said...

Thankyouthankyouthankyouthankyou!!!

Kudos and I agree 100% with you Rocker Girl! Rock on!

Another Suburban Mom said...

All very good points. Its hard to be smugly tolerant of one group if you are trashing another.

Do I lose my foodie cred if I admit that the tray of ring dings was making me hungry.

I love a good ring ding as long as its really, really fresh.

Amorous Rocker said...

Kate:
Thank you. =)


ASM:
Thank you. =)

Nah, not at all. ;) I love a good Hostess cupcake once in a while even though I'm usually way too picky about where my sweets come from, lol.

Genevieve said...

I was married by the mayor of my hubby's town. No wedding dress. No big reception. After the short ceremony we had champagne and cake with a very small handful of friends. And then the two of us, and our best man and maid of honor went to dinner. We didn't even have a honeymoon.
That was over 26 years ago and we're still married and still happy. It's the love that keeps it all working, not how you get married.

phairhead said...

Mmmm....thinking a Twinkie wedding cake might be the way to go!

vixen kitten said...

Well said, Sugar.

xoxo
~vk~

Poindexter said...

yes, I am also in complete agreement with the idea that it is not necessary to make a valid point by belittling an alternative point of view. I am in the midst of planning a wedding to my female sweetheart and while we both consider this ceremonial exhange of vows with the same solemn dignity of any other couple, it grieves me that we will not be afforded the same legal next-of-kin status as any other legally wedded couple. We will be able to protect each other's interests, to a certain degree, by tending to the task of spelling out our wishes in legally approved documents. So ironic. We're just another couple in a nice house in the suburbs tending to the chores around the house every weekend. We pay our share of taxes, just like all of our married neighbors, but the legal protections to our spouse, to our estate, are not available to us. This is the part that is ridiculous to me. It has nothing to do with the way that anyone else celebrates at their own wedding reception.

I don't particularly care for Hostess goodies so much anyway. Just a personal preference. Give me a toll house cookie any day of the week instead, if you don't mind. There will undoubtedly be a tray of toll house cookies at my own wedding reception. :)

Anonymous said...

well im not here to swing off your tits and tell you great post i agree bladdy bladdy blah bc yea and your probably one of the tacky white trash bitches like the ones shown here. that shit is disgraceful and trashy and i find that picture hilarious.

KendallJaye said...

Anon - You're a moron. Learn to spell, use correct grammar, and properly capitalize before you expect anyone to take you seriously.

I totally agree with this posting, AR! Keep up the good work and PASS THE DING DONGS!

-KJ

Drea said...

Simply put, I do not agree with you.

I think these people behaving the way they do is making a mockery of the sanctity of marriage more than allowing gays to marry ever would.

Anonymous said...

kendall just because i dont capitalize or use grammar correctly or know how to spell every word properly doesnt mean my point or my opinion should be dismissed based on that. wheres the tolerance your all for on that boat? its not my fault my phone doesnt have a spell checker and not my fault that spelling and grammar are not my strong points.

thank you drea!!! exactly what i think too because those people they are ridiculous and trashy and it is just so funny and laughable that people think that is okay but think gay marriage is not what a fucking crock of shit.

ar i usually like your blog but this is the worse post you have ever done. who did you get the picture from? maybe i should follow their blog instead of yours bc obvi they get it and you dont.

Carrie Ann said...

"It's not my fault I can't spell!"

Really? I find it rather ridiculous and trashy and indicative of your low level intelligence.

You have just as much control over learning to spell and speak properly as the folks in the picture do over their wedding choices.

What makes you better? What makes anyone better?

No one here spoke against same sex marriage; they spoke against bigotry and prejudice.

Of course, maybe you'd know that if you had better readin', writin' and arithmetic skills.

Southern Sage said...

Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
easy on the jeans wearing crackers!!!

It seems the most vigilant supporters of one thing or other are also the most closed minded.

Great post. Did you hijack some of my anon commenters?!

Kara & Jessica said...

Great post AR. I have to agree with everything you said. Kara XOXO

Joker_SATX said...

Very good points all of them...and I agree with you in regards to tolerance.

Spiky Zora Jones said...

see...this is why I think you ROCK. YOU ARE awesome.

I'm with you all the way.
xxx

Anonymous said...

The pic was tweeted by @britisshameless and way to go for poking at her and her beliefs but not having the balls to call her out on it directly. *rolls eyes*

Carrie Ann, not everyone can grasp everything the same. If giving the ability to learn something was enough to make a person good at it, we would all be geniuses. So is a person who doesn't know algebra or doesn't know molecular reconstruction at fault for not understanding it because the material is available to them? Not everyone can grasp things even when they seem simple to so many others. It is not that person's fault if they try and still don't get it. Where is your tolerance there? Making fun of that commenter by condescending to them is ridiculous.

Mizz Minx Thing said...

To the last anonymous, there was no reason to bring in who the person that tweeted it is. The point is not to attack the person who posted the picture but to attack the message the picture sends. She did not call the girl out in any way or attack the girl in any way so why bring that in to it?

Anonymous comments are such jackasses at times! No offense to the ones who are not.

Also when you come to comment and just name call and curse at people, no one is going to take you seriously even if you have a good point because you are being disrespectful and immature.

Condescending to the trolls is pointless, too.

Now to the post!

Very good points and I agree. Bigotry and mocking of one thing to promote tolerance of something else is completely ridiculous and also completely counterproductive.

Good post, AR! Rock on and keep up what you do.

Anonymous said...

Love the pic thanks for sharing!
Marriage SHOULD ONLY BE Between a man and a woman FUCK the queers!

Mizz Minx Thing said...

Anonymous, you clearly only looked at the picture and did not read the post. Maybe you have issues reading long posts or were there some words you didn't understand? I don't normally condescend to people but you are clearly a closed-minded idiot.

You would know that AR is not bashing gay marriage but speaking out against bigotry and intolerance using that picture.

Given that AR is a bisexual, if you dislike people who are not heterosexual then you are seriously not following the right kind of person in blog land.

Your comment is not only ridiculous but also ignorant and I hope it gets removed.

Anonymous said...

AMEN!

MARRIAGE SHOULD BE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN!

Amanda said...

Drea - The WAY people get celebrate their wedding has NOTHING to do with the sanctity of the marriage. Did the people in these pictures fulfill their vows? Did they stay faithful and honest with their partner? Did they love their partner in good times and bad? If so, then the sanctity of that marriage is protected. If any of these people broke their vows, regardless of what happened during their wedding, THAT is when the sanctity of marriage is mocked.
AR - Great post! :-D

Tragic said...

*blinks*
Wow. I've been away far too goddamn long. Just wow. You know my opinions A.. Fuck the hateful anon twats, they're ignorance epitomized. Just lessons to be learnt.