What pisses me off more is people who have kids but don't take care of them. People who have kids when they can't afford to. I think it's irresponsible to PLAN a baby when you can't take care of yourself. I know this couple who are having a baby. They planned the pregnancy, she got pregnant quickly and she's expected to have the baby soon. They can't afford to buy their groceries every month just the two of them. They struggle to keep themselves afloat from month to month and don't always make it. They often need help getting by and it's only the two of them. I don't have an issue with that. I have trouble too. No big deal. To me, it's common fucking sense to NOT bring a baby into the world when you CAN'T even take care of yourself month to month! If you can't afford groceries every month, why on earth would you get pregnant? That's another mouth to feed and you can't feed a baby Ramen Noodles. You need a ton of shit for your new baby. That's a whole little life that will be completely dependent on the parents to help it live and grow healthily. It's a big responsibility and it's not cheap. So why bring a little precious life into the world when you can't take care of yourself?
She thinks I'm irresponsible and selfish for not ever wanting to have a child. She thinks a lot of things about my decision to not want a child. I think she's a fucking moron for bringing a child into the world when her and her husband can't afford things with just the two of them. I think they're selfish and irresponsible for bringing a life into the world just because they didn't want to wait. Just because they got married and that's what you're supposed to do; get married and make a baby. Now her due date is getting closer and she's stressing out because they did a budget and they won't have enough money to get by including all the "baby expenses" and she's freaking out, stressing out and wondering what they're going to do. They didn't have something bad happen. They didn't get laid off or anything. They were struggling before they got married. They continued to struggle and they never made any additional effort (such as her getting a job) to do better.
It only pisses me off so much because she has the nerve to tell me about my choice and why it's a mistake and why that makes me a bad human being. Fuck her. I don't have to have a child if I don't want to. And at least I wouldn't bring a child into the world knowing I wasn't in a position to take care of one. "Just because" and "not wanting to wait any longer because this is what you're supposed to do" are shitty reasons to have a baby when you know you're not in a position to take care of said life. When you know you won't be in the position to take proper care for at least another year.
It's not just them either, I know. I don't have anything against people having kids. I know shit doesn't go as planned and you do the best you can. It just annoys me when people who can't even take care of themselves bring a child into the world.
Anyway. That's my rant for the day and I'm done now. I've got more to add but I'll save that for another date and time. A date and time when I'm not quite so tired and nodding off at the laptop, lol.
Have a great day y'all.