The Model: I'm dating this woman that's 17* years older than me. People have been giving me a little grief over it and I don't know what to do because I'm tired of hearing about it but I really like her and she makes me happy. I just am so tired of justifying myself about it you know? Do you think it's okay for me to be dating someone 17 years my senior?
*The Model is 23.
Me: Why wouldn't it be?
The Model: I don't know babe. It's just... She's older than my big sister. She was with her ex-girlfriend for 8 years and they broke up a year ago and she swears she's long past that and I believe she is but people think she's with me because she got burned so bad. Her ex dumped her in a bad way. She has had some flings after the break up and she doesn't hardly bring up her ex and doesn't have anything that belongs to her and doesn't have any pictured. But by dating me, people say she's just trying to feel better and prove she's still hot by dating a hot young girl. I guess the age difference is the biggest hang up everyone seems to have.
Me: Okay. Do y'all have similar interests?
The Model: Yeah. Loads of them. Music, movies, books, food, museums, stuff we like to do for fun. All kinds of shit haha. She even collects bottle caps and troll dolls like I do!
Me: Nice. Do y'all have similar views on things?
The Model: Oh yeah. We even agree on religion and politics.
Me: Sweet. You said she makes you happy?
The Model: Yeah. She's kind, funny, intelligent and sweet. She's good to me. We have loads in common. We share similar views on things. She cooks for me. She makes me laugh. She treats me well. So well.
Me: So who gives a shit if she's older than you?
The Model: I just don't want people to keep giving me hell about it. I also don't want to hear that she's only with me because she needs the ego boost.
Me: Who cares what people say? People are always going to run their mouths. There are always going to be the ones shouting nay and the ones who want to see it not work. Some people are going to be uncomfortable by it and want to see it fail to ease their own discomfort. There are tons of reasons why this and why that. Tell them to lay off, you're going to date who you want and if they don't like it, too bad. They should be happy you're dating someone who is good to you. They can fuck off if they want to throw stones and talk shit over something silly. If you like her, she likes you, y'all want to be together and you make each other happy then don't you think that's worth more than what people might say about you? Don't you think you're going to miss out on your own happiness if you're always trying to make everyone else happy instead?
The Model: Damn, you're good. You're not going to send me some kind of bill for this conversation right? ;)
One thing I want to say, age does matter at some point. I think a 16 year old dating a 25 year old isn't cool. I think when it's someone that young, it's not a good mix. I don't think a 16 year old who is just exploring relationships and possibly sexuality has the experience and the maturity to deal with someone that much older than them in a relationship sense. I'm sure there are exceptions but as a general rule, I just don't think teenagers should be dating adults that much older than them. Also not legal (in most states anyway, lol.)
When it's two mature adults though? Or even two adults who at least have a little bit of experience and a little knowledge of what they're doing. Even if it's an inexperienced 22 year old and a 33 year old, I still think that's fine. They might even be up for learning a thing or two from the older counterpart or vice versa. ;)
What do you, my dear readers, have to say on the subject at hand?