I reply to comments on the comment page. Then often times, those comments turn to e-mails or tagboard chats. For my post from yesterday, I wanted to take a few specific people and their comments and reply to them here, on my main blog. I'm cheating and using this as a blog entry but some of the comments were just too damn long after I got done rambling. Which offers up more thoughts and opinions from yours truly on the subject matter of my post yesterday. So it isn't cheating and even if it is, it's my blog and baby I do what I want. :D
Also, I want to say THANK YOU for all of the great comments and e-mails I received because of that post. The comments were surprising but really it was the e-mails I got that kind of astounded me. It's cool though when you can write about something and people can relate to it and want to share their own experiences and stories. Of course, you should know if you were one of the folks who e-mailed me that I won't reply likely until after the weekend or maybe Sunday at the soonest. :)
Anyway, if you don't see yourself here then your reply will be here because the shorter ones and the ones where I didn't really elaborate more on anything were just left there. Also, I realized just now that some parts of these replies won't make sense if you don't know or remember what the comment said. You know where to go to find that though, lol. I already had all this done and written out before I had that little realization so too bad for me, I'm not going back now. Anyway, enjoy. :)
Another Suburban Mom:
I did put a lot of thought in to the post. Usually I just write what comes to mind with little thought but sometimes I post things that I truly think about what I'm going to say and how I want to say it. :) I wish you would have had something like this to read back then but it's fine because now, you know better and hopefully you'd never feel like a horrible slut. :)
Exactly. :) I know a couple of gay folks who are like that too. I don't understand it either. I used to know one in particular who found bisexuality gross because he felt one way or the other was the way to be. Being for both teams, he thought was weird and wrong. That's fine. Think what you like. I just sometimes wish I could get a better explanation than, "It's just how I feel and I'm entitled to my opinion." Oh well though.
I've had that happen before. In my case, it's because I'm too clueless at times to see a "like minded" opportunity when it presents itself. I need to be told or I miss it generally, lol. Thanks for commenting.
Aww thank you! The exploring stages are so fun. It's all new and exciting in a way. It can also be a little daunting and scary too. Uncertain as well. I think it's great you've decided to explore though. It's great when you can do something like that. Even better when you find a partner secure and comfortable enough to be fine with you doing things like that. :) Thanks for the comment darlin'.
It is a little odd. People do weird things to get attention sometimes though. :)
I claimed hetero even when I knew better for a while. After a while though, the only people I really kept it away from was my family but now I don't hide it from them. I wasn't sure how they'd react you know? I didn't want things to be uncomfortable or weird or anything. Glad I could give you something to think on and thanks for the comment. :)
For the most part, I am. There are so many things that need work still but most of them don't have anything to do with being comfortable with myself or not. Thankfully. I don't need one more thing driving me nuts.
Lol! Thank you for sharing that story with me! Seriously, I've had female friends stop hanging out with me because of that. They found out I was bisexual and assumed that I must automatically want every girl I knew and then some! Which is completely ridiculous. I'm so picky it's not even funny. It didn't bother me to lose those friends though because really, they weren't very good friends at all if they wanted to bail like that because their shallow little minds had them thinking something it shouldn't have been. Not one female friend that did that was ever someone I was even remotely attracted to. I just don't understand that. My first reaction to finding out a girl is gay or bi is never to assume she wants me, lol. I'm glad you got past that and got a great friend out of it though. Good for you!
I honestly prefer my serious relationships to be with men as well. I've tried. I cannot do a serious relationship with a girl. I don't even want to really. I adore my boyfriend and wouldn't trade him in for any vagina in the world. He's amazing. I enjoy women though. I enjoy a more casual relationship as far as that goes. A friendship with a bit more basically. As long as things don't develop into more. Or as long as from the get go, the girl isn't looking for more than I'm willing to give. If so, it's time to move on before anything happens. It's unfair as hell to take from someone when you know upfront they want so much more than you're willing to give them.
I look forward to the day you blog about that. One of these days. ;)
You don't sound like a promiscuous bi-slut. Silly. ;) I am totally flattered that you thought any kind of highly about my post. I started out just rambling with no purpose honestly before I stopped and went back to put some thought in to it.I'm glad you enjoyed it and I'm flattered you added it as an "afterthought" girlie. Thank you!
It amazes me too. It makes me feel a little disheartened by it as well.
That's good for optimism! Though I don't think it to be true based on other comments she still makes. She does try to say less things about how disgusting this and that is around but once in a while it happens. I don't say anything usually because it's not worth it to get into an argument over really.
Thank you! The face one was the one I liked better as well. ;)
I understand that. At times, I feel like I am being defensive and that gets me flustered and a bit annoyed. Then I get tongue tied and my point become a little cloudy because I can't word them as articulately as I would like to. I can relate. :D I appreciate the comment and I'm glad you enjoyed the post. :)
I knew around that same age. That's when I went through that whole hating myself and feeling wrong mess. It wasn't something I was about to admit to then because I was so unsure about it and felt so wrong about it. Once I got comfortable with it and accepted it, which took a kind of long time, I had an easier time being more open about it with certain people. The more experiences I had and the more people I met who were or had been in the same boat, the easier it got for me. I don't have a lot of those same people in my life any longer and that's fine. I am grateful for the time I knew and spent with them though. :)
Thank you! :)
I almost wanted to delete the part about my initial confusion and bad feelings about it. I wanted to add that in there though because I didn't want it to seem like I realized it, was fine with it, got moving with it, had a ball and had no problem with anything because hell, so not true there. Lol.